I love my family. That is the bottom line. Now, here are some quirks about this family. Their names are Jake, Julia, Jordan, Jayda and Justice!! They are what make my family my family and not someone else’s.
My husband, Jake, is a godly man. He loves to hunt (to the obsessive point in my opinion), but he was like that when I met him so I can’t complain. He is trying to instill this obsession into his daughters (something he was not successful in doing to me) and they are very receptive to this. They love their Daddy. And he is a Daddy. He loves his girls with everything he is. He is funny, crazy, goofy, whatever they need to see. He hunts with them, plays games with them, bakes with them. How awesome is that! He reminds me a lot of my Daddy.
Julia is the teenager. I don’t want to think about that. In her sister’s opinion, she is boy crazy. I knew it was just a matter of time, I just thought there would be more time before this whole thing started. I wish I could say that I am looking forward to the adult conversations, the hormonal changes, teenage angst. But, I am not. I would rather watch endless episodes of Monster Bucks or Duck Commander.
Jordan is… well… different. She seems to love pain. She and Jake can play a hand slapping game until both of their hands are beet red. And she will laugh and laugh. None of the other girls are brave enough to go against Daddy. I guess it’s their thing.
Jayda got all my good and bad qualities. She wants to do the right thing, but is quick to point out when others, including me and Daddy, are out of line. She remembers everything- even the things that I didn’t think she was paying attention to. She also has a temper. We lock horns- often. She makes me imagine that God is having the very conversations with me that I am having with her. I hate those reality checks!!
Justice is the baby. Well, she’s six, so she’s not a baby anymore. She is shy and sweet. She is the spitting image of her Daddy both physically and in personality. Her nickname since she was a baby is Tooter. She is really going to hate us for that when she is 18.
Now, here are some facts about our family:
Fact #1 We are a Christian family with conservative Christian values that we pass on to our children. There are movies and TV shows that we don’t watch. We don’t drink or curse and feel a bit awkward around people who do. My husband is the head of our household and I submit to him. That is hard for some women to hear let alone do. But that is a requirement of God and, though I have not mastered the concept yet, I work at it. We also, only slightly jokingly, believe in arranged marriages. How else can you think when you have 4 daughters?!
Fact#2 The Bible is- well- my Bible! I believe every word in it. I read it, study it and LIVE IT! James 1:22 says to be doers of the word- not just listeners of it. It is no good to read the Bible if you are not willing to do what it says. I do make mistakes. But, because I have grace and mercy through God, I will continue striving to be perfect- though I will probably never succeed.
Fact #3 My husband is a taxidermist and I am a stay at home mom. We are not rich. This was a decision that we came to that was right for us. At no time do I ever tell any woman that they must stay home to be the perfect Godly woman. My view for me was that I didn’t want someone else raising my children. That is my opinion for my family- period.
Fact #4 Two of my children are homeschooled. Because of family dynamics, the older two are in public school. This is not by our choice -it’s just how our family is. My husband and I believe that we can provide the best environment for at least two of our children. This was not a rash decision (in fact, we spent years debating it) and, though it is trying at times- we still believe we are doing the right thing. Again, this is the right thing for our family.
I love my family. I love the dynamics of my family. Sometimes my family makes me absolutely insane!!!! Sometimes I just want to lock myself in my closet and scream into the pillow that I keep in there to scream into! But, my Father in Heaven gave me this family with these characters in it. And he gave me the wisdom and patience and love and everything else I need to handle the different episodes that my family will involve me in. He gives me these things- plus many more, through the Holy Spirit. When I listen to that Spirit, I don’t need the closet- or the pillow. I just need Him.